Sometimes it's better to take a risk and do something even though you might get negative feedback,
or no feedback
or do it wrong
or not exactly right
Sometime it's better to take a risk and do something rather than waiting for permission from others who don't know you are waiting for permission
Before you think back to the good old days of the people who came before us with lower stress lives, a slower way of living and yearn for the increase in time before things got so hectic.
Write a simple list of the things that cause you stress and then another list of what the absence of that stress causer would mean?
Your phone means you are constantly being bombarded with messages BUT it does mean you don't arrive home after a day seeing clients and have to face a day's worth of emails.
Both parents needing to work makes the juggle of childcare and housework a nightmare sometimes but it's awesome that women can choose to hold a job if they want to.
No cash machines?
No shops open on the weekend?
And while a paleo diet may be a cool thing, I am very happy we don't have to live the paleo lifestyle!
The tyranny of before and after pictures for clients is that what is promoted as being success is reduced to waist size, ass fat and what they look like. Success as measured by these pictures doesn't move or live or breathe.
Success is demonstrated with no reference to the increased health, the joy of movement, the feeling of owning their body.
Success like this is worth having on Facebook and all dressed up with people marking their success out of ten on how good they look at parties or in the supermarket.
Meanwhile back in the real world don't you want your clients to have success that makes a difference every day, not just when they are being judged for what they look like?
Often it's not that what you are saying isn't true it's that the people you are talking to are hearing something completely different.
How you say your message is just as important as what your message is.
If you are talking to someone who has never exercised and doesn't know the joy of being fit, you may be saying 'exercise will give you improved energy and a little bit of less chance of dying of a dumb ass lifestyle disease' but they are hearing 'I think you are fat and useless and may as well die if you don't lose weight now'.
Business is the same, when you say 'Just work with me and I'll make your business better and you richer and happier' many of your potential clients will just hear 'you are failing, I know you are failing and now I want to tell you how badly you are failing and charge you money for it'.
Understand it's not just what you say but how you say it.
Being isolated from the wider industry you work within is easy when you can get all your resources, your needs, your skills, and your social interaction from one source or place or from within one organisation.
It can be a brilliant thing- if your organisation is up to the job.
Those working in a large organisations are lucky, their workplaces have the money and time to bring the world to their team.
The trouble is that if you are a sole trader, work in a small industry or business the resources, the interaction, and the knowledge within your organisation are more limited.
Being isolated within that small organisation means you have a very limited knowledge of what resoureces other organisations have, especially the big ones.
So if you are going to to socialising, learning from, working with and getting your knowledge from only within your organisation, make sure you work with one that is big enough to meet all your needs, even the ones you don't know about.
For the one man bands, the loners, the sole traders who choose to work alone, you don't have the luxury of being isolated from the wider industry you work within.
If you want to survive and thrive you are going to have to get out there.
Life is not the Game of Thrones.
You don't deal with your competition by killing them.
You don't have to be die before you declare defeat.
And you never win.
It's better this way.
When you see a dandelion, a bright yellow flower or a circle of fairies attached, that is perfection.
However in order to do it's job, achieve it's goal of making more dandelions, it has to sacrifice it's perfection.
Be a dandelion, sacrifice perfection to reach your goals
It's easy to fight for a good cause when you get paid for it
when everyone else is on your side
when it's seen as the right thing to do
when you get credit for fighting
when people talk about the work you are doing
they say nice things about you
they think you are wonderful
It's really easy to fight for a good cause
All you are getting is the fight for a good cause
You aren't special
Probably you are very average
Most likely you are likely producing work that is pretty much as good as anyone else.
Because the important work is not done by those who do a one off amazing thing, an exceptionally above average achievement or by those who are making things that are better than everyone else.
The important work is the stuff that's done regularly, on time, reliably and good quality.
Julz Darroch at bigredball